It’s a fairly simple math problem.
Any man who can allow himself to physically harm a woman is a piece of shit.
Greg Hardy physically harmed a woman.
Thus, Greg Hardy is a piece of shit.
Say it with me: “Greg Hardy is a piece of shit.”
This is something I have privately felt for several months but publicly refrained from saying. After several private discussions with Cowboys fans who I hadn’t seen say this publicly, I know I’m not alone.
Before I jump too far into this, I want to make something crystal clear and this part is a personal belief of mine. People have stated they’re disappointed that Hardy has never given a public apology. My take on this is that it is very arrogant of people to want a public apology. The victim deserves an apology, you and I do not. For you and I to put ourselves on the level of pretending we deserve an apology when nothing happened to us is total arrogance. Nothing happened to you. Nothing happened to me. We don’t deserve an apology.
As a fan of the Cowboys, we find ourselves defending the team, the front office, the coaching staff, the players, etc, on a daily basis. Every new sunrise seems to bring a new thing that people want to bash the Cowboys for.
I had a friend tell me he was disappointed in the fact that I have gone easy on Hardy publicly. He pointed out to me that, with the following we have with @CowboysNation, we have a responsibility to be honest about this.
He was absolutely correct.
So here you go, here are some of the things I have felt and never publicly said:
When Greg Hardy made his 9/11 joke in May, I privately hoped his time in Dallas would be over.
I think it’s obvious that Greg Hardy is a person with anger issues, who crossed an uncrossable line on May 12, 2014.
I want the Cowboys to win a Super Bowl, but in my head, I have pictured the words that would be said countless times, “You guys had to have a woman beater on the team to do it”.
I didn’t want that to be the takeaway if we won with him.
I want the takeaway to be about all the years with Tony Romo and Jason Witten and Jason Garrett and Jerry winning without Jimmy (or Jimmy’s players), I want to see the raw emotion we would get from Dez, etc.
I didn’t want any success to be publicly tarnished in the way we know it would be with Hardy on the team.
When I reached out to Hardy and asked him to donate to the airplane banner & Children’s Hospital we were helping to raise money for and he replied and donated, I thought “Okay, maybe he gets it. Maybe this is the start of trying to be the good guy.” So I started trying to positively build him up publicly.
Training Camp started and we saw the videos of Hardy getting along with teammates and fans. We heard stories about him being a leader with the team, pushing teammates to work harder, etc.
Things seemed to be moving in the right direction.
The season started and Hardy’s on-field talent immediately seemed like he might at least be worth the headache. “Maybe now the focus will be on his play”.
And then the game happened against the Giants. Rich Bisaccia. Clipboard. Hardy. Here we go again.
Oh and now pictures from May 2014 have been released.
And here come our instincts again. Defend the team. Defend the front office. Defend the players.
For me, exhausted from all of it, I was done defending Greg Hardy.
I put out 1 statement, spread over 11 tweets:
“All along, my stance has been “I don’t know what happened that night and neither do you”. While the release of pictures gives us a better idea of what happened that night, it doesn’t paint a different picture than what could have been reasonably expected to have been the case. Whatever happened, happened to and between Holder and Hardy. Nothing happened to YOU or ME and I say this specifically because I maintain my stance that Hardy owes us nothing. He doesn’t owe us an apology. My stance still remains that Hardy is a football player who clearly was responsible for a very bad situation in his past. Much like Vick and many others, Hardy went thru the legal process. If you’re mad that he isn’t in prison, then be mad at the people responsible for the case. The Cowboys/NFL have no control over the legal process. Speaking on behalf of the people behind this account, while we have favorite or least favorite players, we root for the Star. As mentioned 2 weeks ago, we will continue to focus more on on-field topics, because that is the entire point of what we do.”
I was ripped for this statement, with people saying I was defending Greg Hardy, despite the words “Hardy… clearly was responsible for a very bad situation in his past.” Somehow me saying I felt he was responsible was me defending him.
This statement caused people of “higher morals” to say some thoughtful things to me, here are just 2 of the highlights:
- “Go buy a gun and kill yourself.”
- “I hope you have a daughter and Hardy rapes and kills her.”
So thank you, to those hundreds of you that replied negatively, and especially those two people, thank you for taking the time to teach me how to be a better person.
Are you ready to see what a difference perspective makes?
Greg Hardy, who had been following @CowboysNation when I made that statement, blocked us after that statement.
I’m guessing Greg Hardy didn’t feel like those words were defending him.
One thing I am completely at a loss over, if you are upset about Greg Hardy playing in the NFL, why aren’t you also upset about:
- Adrian Peterson – who assaulted his own child, still playing
- Ahmad Brooks – facing sexual battery charges, still playing
- Aldon Smith – hit and run, DUI, several prior arrests, still playing
- Sheldon Richardson – recklessly driving at 143 mph to avoid arrest with a 12-year-old child in his car at the time, still playing
- Bruce Miller – charged with domestic battery, still playing
- Letroy Guion – felony firearm charges, still playing
- D’Qwell Jackson – assault charges, still playing
- Chris Johnson – illegally open-carrying a firearm, still playing
- Tim Jennings – DUI, reckless driving, speeding, still playing
- Junior Galette – domestic violence/battery, then signed by Redskins
- Le’Veon Bell – DUI, still playing
- Erin Henderson – DWI, still playing
- Jo-Lonn Dunbar – battery and disorderly conduct, still playing
- Mike Vick – murdered/tortured countless dogs because they couldn’t fight good enough, still playing
- Henry Melton – assault, still playing
- Ben Roethlisberger – accused of sexual assault, still playing
- Marcell Dareus – reckless endangerment, still playing
- Chris Culliver – hit-and-run and rammed a witness’ vehicle, still playing
- Frank Clark – domestic violence, then drafted by Seattle, still playing
I only included situations where the player physically harmed someone (domestic violence, battery, etc, allegedly or otherwise) or could have physically harmed someone (DUI, reckless endangerment, etc, allegedly or otherwise).
I could go on and on with this list. I could continue typing that list for hours, as the San Diego Union-Tribune has an easily accessible log of 809 NFL player arrests. (http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/nfl/arrests-database/)
While many people will talk about Hardy not spending time in prison, in comparison to a situation like Vick, the legal system and the NFL are 2 completely separate things, so let's treat them as such.
The list I posted should be enough for you to realize that if you’re only upset about Hardy playing in the NFL, you’re missing a larger problem.
Personally, I think Greg Hardy is an absolute piece of shit and I think the majority of the names on the list above are also pieces of shit.
Now, I ask you, if you’re only talking about Greg Hardy, why aren’t you talking about all the people on that list? Do you not care about their victims/potential victims? I sure do.
I would hope you care as much about every victim equally and not care about 1 just because of a uniform and the headlines that come along with being negative about the Cowboys.
I promise you, if you make this campaign about all the scum in the league, I’ll be screaming the loudest in agreement with you. When you look like you only care about 1 guy it makes you look like you only care about 1 victim.
Let that sink in.
If you’re only talking about 1 guy, it makes you look like you only care about 1 of the victims, and that’s a bad, hypocritical look to have.
Speaking to Cowboys fans:
I understand your conundrum. We grew up rooting for the Star. We’ve spent years defending the Star. The daily barrage of criticism to Romo or the Cowboys, etc has created an instinct that makes us feel like we have to defend EVERYTHING. We don’t.
It is ok to root for the Star and still say Greg Hardy is a piece of shit.